Tips to avoid falling into the parent trap of spending unnecessarily
THE patter of little feet around the house is always a joy but the 
addition of new family members into the household can be quite expensive
 and a financial strained if there is no planning.
Here's how to avoid falling into the parent trap of spending unnecessarily and reducing your childcare costs.
Sharing the load 
The financial load of taking care of a child can always be better managed if both parents are working.
“The
 first thing one should do is to sit down and decide how the finances 
should be evenly distributed,” says financial adviser Wilson Low.
“Of course, it would be better if everything is determined some time before the child is born, rather than after,” he adds.
It's not necessarily a bad thing, however, if only one of the two parents is working, says Low.
“If
 one parent is working, then the non-working one can stay at home and 
look after the children full-time. This can seriously help cut down on 
the cost of hiring a maid or babysitter.”
Buy what you only need
Adlina
 Hassan, a stay-at-home mother of three, says one should only focus on 
getting the bare essentials or “only what is necessary” when it comes to
 buying food or clothing for one's children.
“There are a lot of 
products out there and I always like to compare. Many parents often get 
what their friends or neighbours buy but that shouldn't always be the 
way. They could be better off than you and the items they buy may not be
 to your budget.
“Just get what is necessary and no need to keep up with the Joneses,” she says.
According to Melissa Ram, who is a proud new mother, buying in bulk can also be a cheaper option.
“Buying
 in bulk would be good when there are promotional items on offer. Buying
 goods online can also give you savings. I shop a lot online and compare
 pricing to get the best deal for what I want.”
However, when buying in bulk, one needs to ensure that the goods can be consumed in time.
“I
 would not buy food or milk in bulk as I'm very particular about the 
expiration dates and such. I once bought some cereal from a hypermarket 
and it was expired,” says Gowri Arumainathan, a mother of two.
Melissa also says she keeps a lookout for baby fairs where she believes one can get “really good deals.”
“Another
 option is to buy clothes in bigger sizes as children tend to grow very 
fast and outgrow their clothes in a short space of time.”
Gowri also says she prefers to purchase children's goods, especially dairy products, from local sundry shops and mini-markets.
“It's
 definitely cheaper, at least by a few ringgit, and I also notice that 
the stock moves fast. This way I know I'm getting new stock of milk or 
cereal that I need to buy. This even applies for diapers.
“When 
it comes to clothes, I tend to buy most of them from the open market. 
It's cheaper and you'd be surprised by the quality of clothes you can 
find.”
Cooking your own meals
If you have the time to do it, then home-cooked food is always a cheaper option.
“I tend to make my children's meals. It's cheaper, fresh and I'm able to provide more variety to their food intake,” says Gowri.
Melissa,
 meanwhile, says: “In respect of the food, breastfeeding will save you a
 lot in the cost of milk! I also believe mothers should try to cook 
their own food for their children rather than to buy baby food off the 
rack.”
Getting extra help 
A lot of times, one 
needs to get extra assistance to look after their children. This could 
be a willing and able family member, such as a parent, or getting hired 
help like a maid or babysitter.
“The cheapest is surely to get 
your parents to look after. In our case, we have a long list of 
“babysitters” on hand, ranging from our parents, sister to aunties and 
cousins,” enthuses Melissa.
Gowri also concurs that getting a parent to look after your children is a cheaper option.
“Of
 course, getting a parent to look after the child is the most 
cost-efficient way. Especially with reports of how children are not 
looked after well at nurseries and day-care prices these days are all 
going sky high,” she says.
“It's surely the cheapest option 
(being looked after by a parent) and you know your child's well being is
 close to heart. However, at times, grandparents are often too old or 
unwell to run around after small kids,” Gowri adds.
With that in mind, she believes getting a maid is a better option when the child is a little older.
“Getting
 a maid is only an option to me if my child is bigger and able to inform
 me about the maid. Otherwise, I will not be able to trust my younger 
children with them. With all the stories you hear of what they can put 
in your food and do to a child, it makes you shudder to think your 
child's health can be in harm's way.
“Babysitters would be my 
next option. As they don't take care of too many children at one time, 
you know you are getting a more personal touch. Day-cares are just too 
commercialised and can have too many children to look after. So the 
personalised care for your child is not there.”
Adlina believes getting students as babysitters is a cheaper option.
“Of
 course perhaps not as full-time babysitters but I always found that 
getting students to look after your children can be a cheaper option.
“Students
 are not so demanding. They're usually looking for easy pocket-money and
 they're usually quite happy with whatever you offer them, most of the 
time!”
By EUGENE MAHALINGAM eugenicz@thestar.com.my
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